Overcoming negative emotions

- August 15, 2020

Attitude of Gratitude! There was a girl who lived near me. She was with me in the same class. One day she was late to school , because her cycle got punctured in the middle of the road, somehow she managed to reach school. After reaching school ,principal scorned her for being late in front of everyone. She was so upset by that incident, that she stopped talking with everyone for few days, After few days she was back to normal, and surprisingly after that incident she was never late to school. But she had developed hatred for her principal, she still had those feelings stored in her mind. Same happens with everyone of us ,right? We all have negative-experiences, thoughts ,problems ,worries in our life; Like, people have criticized us, have scorned at us, yelled at us, have ignored us, etc etc. We remember all this in some corner of our mind, we remember the emotions we were going through , how upset we were in the moment etc. We all tend to remember these negative emotions very fast, and whenever we get upset we remember these incidents and overlook at it, and at the end of the day we feel unworthy. This happens with almost everyone of us. Why? This happens because our brain is hardwired to focus on negative experiences or thoughts. So it needs someone who will thrive to focus it's attention from negative to positive experiences/thoughts. And ,this work is done by --Gratitude! What do we actually mean by Gratitude?- Gratitude means saying Thank You to all the things which you are grateful for; and there is always something to be grateful for, No matter how defeating life is. We sometimes fail to look at the efforts of our loved one, there may be many justifying reasons for it. But we should acknowledge these people by saying them a simple word-Thank you , for their little efforts to make you smile, to make your life good, right! This is going to have 2 benefits •The person you say Thank- You is going to feel good •You will also feel good, for acknowledging people in your life, and you will feel Positive which is going to boost your mood (due to secretion of dopamine) *Ways to express Gratitude and it's benefits •There are 2 ways to express Gratitude, you can say it in-person or im-person, (I use both the ways, i maintain a Gratitude journal as well as say it in-person too) •Also not necessary that things should be be animate ; there are many inanimate things that we should be grateful for ,-like House-our comfort zone, Plants-our energy box, Food and Water, etc etc . Second way , you can maintain a Gratitude - journal in which you can say thank you to all the factors contributing good to your life, making your life better . You can fill this either in the morning or in the night. This will change your life in a positive way! Benefits: ° Our brain will focus on just positive things and will actually refrain from thinking negative thoughts, and you'll be more focused and happy in your life. ° You'll be more empathetic and kind ° It improves your psychological health ° Increases mental strength ° You have a better sleep And many other benefits!! Isn't it amazing ! Change will not be easy, until you actually start it! So make sure to make a good one. Hope this helps you to make your life better. ~Kshitija Itraj❤️